Valentine’s Day is being celebrated next week in the most parts of the world. The tradition is to celebrate your love for one another at this special time of the year. Of course, we think ANY reason to celebrate love, especially marital love, is a great idea! We need more of it –but we’re talking about the true caring type of genuine love.
It’s not only romantic love that needs to grow in marriage, but also showing that you care. Too often we forget (in our everyday hectic lives) to do little things to show our spouse that we care. Life “happens” and we go with it this way and that. It takes intentionality to focus on growing that type of love. It’s like what Roseanne Ellington says, “Couples mistakenly believe that the fire of the honeymoon continues to roar on its own. The truth is that it burns inconsistently, sometimes flaring up, sometimes burning steadily, and sometimes waning into mere embers. It’s up to both partners to keep the fire burning, and it takes effort!” And it does! We can attest to that.
To give you some ideas that you may or may not have thought to do, below is a great list of ways you can show your spouse that you care. William J. Lederer wrote this list (posted in his book, “Marital Choices”) and we think it’s a great one. See what you think. To show you care:
1. Greet me with a hug and a kiss before we get out of bed in the morning.
2. When you are walking, bring back a flower or a leaf.
3. Look at me, and smile.
4. Call me during the day and tell me something pleasant.
5. Turn off the lights and light a candle when we have dinner.
6. Ask me how I spent my day.
7. Meet me at the bus stop sometimes as a surprise.
8. Tell me how much you enjoy having breakfast with me.
9. Tell the children (in front of me) what a good parent I am.
10. When we sit together, put your arm around me.
11. When we are together at home, ask me what record I would like to hear, and then play it.
12. Wash my back when I’m in the shower.
13. Have coffee with me in the morning so that we can have a five-minute talk together.
14. Hold me at night just before we go to sleep.
15. Ask my opinion about world affairs after we watch the news.
16. For no special reason, hug me and say you like me.
17. Hold my hand when we walk down the street.
18. When you see me coming up the drive, come out to meet me.
19. Put a surprise note in my lunch bag.
20. When we’re together, end your sentences with “dear” or “sweetheart.”
21. When we part in the morning, blow a kiss to me.
Steve and I do a lot of these things regularly. (That’s probably why both of us feel cherished by each other.) What about you and your spouse? Do you and your spouse do some of these and other things to show you love and care?
Steve and Cindy Wright
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