Too Blessed to be Stressed

It’s practically the end of January already! And I imagine our New Year Resolutions to morph into  New Year awakenings. When current realities set in and the holiday/new year exuberance gives way to everyday ‘busyness’, the euphoria tends to wane.With each passing day, those lofty goals start to seem like mountains needing more exertion than we think we can muster. Take it easy, it’s only normal.

When I started this blog towards the end of last year, I was psyched, still am. Lots of ideas coursed through my mind and sleep, repeatedly. But these days,like you, I’m looking at my schedule and wondering how I could fit in all I have to do. I started to grumble to myself about how exhausted I am already. I have, however, realized something in the last few days. That something is likely to set the tone for the rest of the year. It’s simple, really, and it’s no revelation. It is, in fact, a reminder of what we already know.

If you are stressed, check it (in Igbo accent), you are most likely blessed!

If your schedule is overwhelming, leaving you with no time to rest and catch your breath, it’s because you are blessed in diverse ways. What’s more, you’re feeling the heat because those blessings come with obligations. Truth be told, not too many people can make this claim.

A respected speaker once said, every Level has its Devils. Simply put, each of us live with his own unique set of challenges irrespective of his station.

You may walk past a BMW and think : “Wow, the owner of this ride is on top of the world”. Maybe. But can you imagine what it must cost him to maintain that ride? From the initial capital outlay to the regular servicing, to the insurance premium or purchase of parts when the unexpected happens. I can’t even imagine the level of care he needs to take in driving it. Don’t forget the necessary top-of-the range security system installed in the car and the one in his subconscious at all times. He would think twice before driving it to his hometown or stopping by the roadside to buy and enjoy some of Africa’s simple pleasures – roasted corn or plantains! What’s more, He cannot even afford to buy fuel just anywhere (especially if he lives in this part of the world). Substandard fuel has been known to mess with such cars.

Do not even get me started on private jet, mansion and yacht owners. Initial purchase, maintenance, staff, utilities,security, and insurance are only a few of the things to deal with. It’s not enough to own these luxuries, there are financial,mental,physical operating costs attached. So, their priviledges come with commensurate levels of pressure!

Have you ever wondered why marriage can be so tough? It’s simply because it’s a hugely beneficial venture; so is having kids and so is anything worth doing or having in life.

So, here’s my point really…

Suck it up, you are blessed man or woman,one way or the other. If you don’t have a car, you have a job,if you don’t have a job,you have family,if you don’t have a family, you have a life, if you don’t have a life…… you are reading this,aren’t you?Think about it, your current realities are thousands of miles from those of the Syrian refugees.
God always blesses us with something and each of those things come with duties.To whom much is given, much is expected. Blessings come attached with an amazing phenomenon called RESPONSIBILITY.

So, what do you do? Create a coping mechanism for the responsibilities that come with your blessings so you can make the most of them.

If you practically live in traffic because you reside in Lagos, New York or London,get some Bible on CD, get some life-transforming audio material to play on the road. Drive time can become learning and empowerment time. Or just listen to some music,it’s always refreshing.

If you are a career woman/busy mom like me, get a system and a routine that works for you. Learn to let some things go at each phase of your life. You may not be able to work full time, get an MBA, lose weight and take salsa classes when your child is still a few months old, you will need to pace yourself. You can mope under the pressure all you want or build a lifestyle that allows you achieve your goals.

If your new year resolutions are looking like impossibilities, build a CONSISTENT system around them. For instance, shed some activities E.g non-stop snacking, watching TV for hours daily, you can’t be at every party and  please, sell your house on Instagram, some people live there!

Take a real vacation or a staycation to refresh yourself and take stock of your life.

If you SINCERELY don’t like something about your life and you believe it’s at variance with your destiny, change it (Not your spouse ohhhhh! Lol!)

Finally, remember, the scariest, most difficult and painful experiences make the most inspiring stories  for people to learn from(wink)

Get a system and enjoy your blessings to the fullest.

God Bless


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  1. Thank you so much Ayo, what i took out is what ever the dream, thought ur resolution for the year, I should live and be responsible, not only that, be consistent at it. Very apt. Thank you again.

  2. It’s easy to shift responsibilities but the truth is, life is what you make of it; and sometimes we just need to make the very best of our present realities.

  3. Awesome! I’m going through this phase right now and totally agree. I loved this part most – “build a system around your life”….weldone dear.

  4. POW BABES!!! I don’t make resolutions ( I never understood how and why people did it only to break it in the first 5 days of the new year). But this year I think I came close to making something like a resolution ( let’s not cal it that though) one thing I have promised myself to do is to dust those buried ideas, dreams and push myself more. Last year was TOUGH, coming to work smiling and laughing going home slouching. But not THIS YEAR!!! I made sure to cut every weight from last year and the years before. Today I read about Dr. Bennet Omalu a normal DOKITA oooo who graduated like most doctors do, went abroad to further his studies and help people …. Today he is called the HOLLYWOOD Doctor. He was at the Golden Globes taking pictures with stars. Talk about living your dreams babe!

    This article sums it up nicely…. It’s time to wake up, shake it up and take BIG WALKS!!!!

    1. My sister, thanks jare. It’s a big deal to me that. Guru writer visited my blog oh, lol. Nothing like living your dreams oh!

  5. “…the scariest, most difficult and painful experiences make the most inspiring stories for people to learn from”. This is so TRUE as I have experienced this both personally and professionally. I have also learnt that the scarier the responsibility, the greater the reward too. Great post with a positive spin to coping with stress.

  6. “Blessings come with an amazing phenomenon called responsibility ” that resounds in my spirit so much!
    So I’m at a point in my life where I can say i’m really ‘blessed’ (if you know what I mean). I guess I just need to remain grateful for my many blessings and keep improving on my coping mechanism. This post encouraged me, reassured me of what is important, reminded me of acknowledging the positives in situations and over all it blessed me. Thank you so much for this reminder as you have precisely put it. I will definitely hang around here more…looking forward to your next post!

  7. It’s funny how we describe as ‘stress’ what some people would die for! Just today in church, I came across some guy who probably was struck with polio as a child. As he waddled in btw the aisles, I told myself ‘….and I sometimes think I have the biggest issues to deal with….” beyond all else, im determined to be happy with myself this year; and my code is “find your own joy”. This would mean changing some of the things I’m unhappy about; and def that’s a good-to-do. I learn from my hubby everyday- he’s never bothered;and never loses his smile over anything. What I believe that does for him is that it keeps him from he complaining or whining. Hoping to stay in that positive space too; in 2016!!!

  8. This is an eye opener and definitely gives a different perspective on how you see yourself. To whom much is given even more is expected. Our generation is a very needy one.. We want the cars, the mansions, fat savings account, etc but never think to thank God for them; instead we complain (Guilty of same). As a career woman, 3 kids( including my spouse), trying to get a master and in perfect health am too blessed to be stressed!

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